I’ve been incredibly quiet on the blogging front for a little while now but I’m back, with some changes! The last few months have been big for me and have involved probably the biggest changes in my life so far. And you might have noticed that things have changed a little around here.
For a start, I’m not ‘Life at Number Five’ anymore. I’m now ‘Lauren Lately’ here on the blog. All my social tags have changed as well but if you’re already following me on Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest or Twitter then you will have already seen the change.
There are a couple of reasons for that and for the big changes in my life and they are all pretty much linked.
The easiest way to probably deal with it all is to just come out and say what’s going on as simply as possible. So, Stu and I have separated and will be getting divorced. I was also diagnosed with post natal depression a couple of months ago. I’ll be moving out of the house soon(ish) and into a much smaller place. Stu and I have shared custody of Grace (50/50). I have basically a whole new life! I am however keeping my new/old name as I don’t feel particularly connected to my maiden name and I want to still have the same last name as Grace. Plus I really don’t want to deal with any extra paperwork right now!
All in all, I felt that my blog name and story didn’t reflect who I am now so I decided to add a blog change into the mix as well (plus it gives me something to focus on during the days I don’t have Grace).
So there will probably be a bit of a shift of content here now that I’m a single mum, aiming to live a significantly more thrifty and simple life and focusing on being the best mum to Grace and best version of myself I can be.
Which brings me to my new blog name – Lauren Lately. Because what my life looks like now is changing all the time and what I do next is now a bit up in the air and a bit of an adventure, and I want to bring you along for the ride as I find my feet as a newly single mum dealing with life (and PND) and all that comes along with that. Self-care is one of my biggest priorities right now and I’m excited to be able to focus on myself, my development, my rediscovery of myself.
I will be talking a bit about my PND as I work through my struggles and discover more about it (it’s still a fairly recent thing for me in terms of having a diagnosis and a plan to deal with it) here on the blog and how my life is shaping up as a single mum.
What I won’t be talking about however are the specifics of the separation. It’s not solely my story to tell and I respect the privacy of my family too much to want to share details publicly. I will say that it is a completely drama-free and amicable separation and that we are both a lot happier now than we have been for a long time so it’s a very good thing for everyone concerned. As much as some people will judge us for separating with such a young child, I would rather Grace have two happy parents who aren’t together than have two parents who are together but unhappy. I can already see a huge difference in her levels of happiness which makes me realise just how much our unhappiness was impacting negatively on her.
I’m excited about this new stage in my life (although I am sad about the breakdown of the marriage and our family) and I’m choosing to view it as an opportunity to prioritise myself and my mental health, particularly on the days that I don’t have Grace with me. I’m focusing on rediscovering myself, living out my values as best I can and healing my heart and mind to be a better version of me.
Now that all that is out of the way and I’ve told you what is going on, I can get back into blogging and sharing what is happening in my life with you.
There may be a few technical difficulties here with links and things for the next little while so please bear with me if anything isn’t working properly (or is redirecting to my old lifeatnumberfive.com blog). I have migrated all my old content over but I’m a little technically challenged with some of it so I’ve manually changed all of the links in my old posts and there may be a few that I’ve missed. But all my new content on here and the posts for the past year should be all sorted and links going where they should so hopefully there isn’t any huge inconvenience for you!
I’m really looking forward to expanding my blog as ‘Lauren Lately’ and I hope you’ll join me for the ride.