Archives for October 2015
I can’t believe my baby girl is 6 weeks old already! Although it also feels like the longest 6 weeks ever! It’s amazing how quickly babies grow and change and how quickly you can’t imagine your life without them.
I feel like I’m settling into motherhood now and starting to get a handle on how to do things. Although what works to settle her one day doesn’t necessarily work the next day which can be a little frustrating for me. I’m figuring out that this whole parenting thing is a lot of trial and error and just going with what works for now.
Grace and I have a nice little rhythm now that Stu is back at work. We go for a nice walk every morning, usually for about an hour, and I grab a takeaway coffee to sip on while we walk. It’s so nice to get out of the house and get some fresh air and exercise, especially as I wasn’t able to drive until last weekend. Grace loves the pram and sleeps really easily while we’re out so it’s a good way for me to get her to have a solid 1 hour sleep….
October 15 is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day (and all of October is pregnancy and infant loss awareness month), and although we have just welcomed our gorgeous little girl into our lives I’ve also been thinking about our other baby, the one I miscarried almost one year ago.
The first time you are pregnant is amazingly joyful and filled with excitement. I found out I was 5 weeks pregnant in mid-November last year, after just a few months of trying to conceive. We were so excited and started dreaming about the future we would have with our little baby. Just 5 days later I started cramping and bleeding and we found out I had miscarried.
I found out I was pregnant again one month and two days later, a pregnancy which gave us Grace.
I was glad to fall pregnant again so quickly as it relieved the crippling (and really quite irrational) fear I had that we would never fall pregnant again. But it wasn’t all excitement and joy and dreams this time. It was fear of losing another baby, not knowing if I could handle going through that again.
Falling pregnant after miscarriage means that you obsess over every cramp, every twinge, wondering if it means you are miscarrying again. You check for bleeding every time you go to the bathroom (and not just in the first trimester, I did it every time for my entire pregnancy). You are afraid to let yourself be happy or excited just in case. …
Welcome to part 2 of Grace’s birth story! You can read part 1 here, but to quickly catch you up: I was past my due date and had been told it wasn’t looking like I would go into labour naturally so I had settled in at home to wait for my induction date to roll around.
At about 2am on Saturday the 5th of September, 8 days past my due date, I woke up to a really bad contraction. This had happened a fair bit over the past couple of weeks so I thought nothing of it and tried to go back to sleep.
About half an hour and 5 contractions later I figured I should probably keep an eye on the time to see how close these contractions actually were.
At the time it felt like so much longer between contractions because I was so exhausted and still trying to nap between contractions.
After about an hour of very painful and very regular contractions I realised that this was probably ‘it’ and I was finally in labour! I continued napping in between contractions for about 2 hours until I was loud enough in dealing with them to wake Stu up, who was happily sleeping soundly next to me until this point….
So I haven’t been around very much at all lately (which I’m sure you’ve noticed!) as I’ve been adjusting to my new ‘normal’ of life with a newborn. It’s been a huge adjustment over the last 5 weeks and has definitely changed my life!
Now that we’re settled in (and I’ve managed to find some small windows of time when I can actually get on the computer) I thought I would take some time to write down Grace’s birth story, mostly for myself so that I can remember it in the months and years to come. It ended up being a lot more eventful than I originally thought it would be!
This is fairly lengthy story so I’ve broken up into two parts – part 1 today and part 2 tomorrow!
I had gone into this without a birth plan because my ultimate aim was to get the baby out safely, however it needed to happen. I did have general ideas of how I wanted things to happen and what I wanted (my preference would have been for a drug-free birth) but thankfully I wasn’t rigidly wedded to a ‘plan’ because what ended up happening was pretty much the complete opposite of how I had imagined it would go!
This ‘Newborns 101’ series will follow along with the first couple of major hurdles and milestones of having a baby to help out any other first time mums out there like myself in hearing some experiences from other mums who have actually been there. You can check out the previous posts in this series here.
Today I’ve got the lovely Jo from Loving Life After 40 sharing her wisdom on what she knows about parenting now, looking back on those heady newborn days….